Well Big Sean is and he has taken to music platforms to share how he plans to handle this one. As we all know he and ex Jhene’ Aiko has been a big deal in the entertainment industry and have taken a different approach to remain reputable with each other and within music media with partnering on Sean’s new single entitled “Single Again”.
When the song first begins it samples Carl Thomas’s “I wish” and he starts with the lyrics “What happens when it’s too good to throw away? You either let it go bad or go away, I need to pray”. I love it, because naturally it’s almost never the following approach. The artist begins to explore other options like let’s be friends, and spending his time and cash on himself. With a high tempo rhythm he makes you want to listen to the lyrics and consider being single during this #hotgirlsummer, not so bad after all. When the beat drops the song makes you wanna vibe and dance to it, have a drink or 2 and embrace it not for anyone else but for self.
With great points like not placing the blame, and admitting it could be him. He explores the topic of parenting issues and how things between his parents never worked out. Which are all great therapy and discussion pieces alone. It’s enough to make you think, could that cause great impact on your relationships with other people. The major key to all this is to have his ex on the chorus with him, could that mean they are on one accord. At such a pivotal time they could’ve taken this in many directions but they choose the mature and peaceful route which makes this song even more appealing. With a new look, and more mature sound, the 3:34 second song says it easy to just do what’s best when being alone and that’s to take care of you. No drugs, not more girls, or even partying can help with the healing hurt after a breakup, you gotta just take care of you. I hear a little Ty Dolla in the end too. I think the song is dope, anybody else recently Single Again? Meditate /Pray, Go get cute/fly, wash up the whip, roll all the windows down and play this as loud as you can on repeat to some kind of me time activity. Just thank Sean later ;-).
When you hear r&b, what comes to mind? For me it triggers memories, thoughts of love, breakups, dancing, images from old school music videos, convertible popped rides, soothing words and bubble baths, long kisses in front of the projects (lol think 90’s videos, No I know I’m not from the projects). I mean I could literally go on and on. It’s not just R&B honestly all types of music will trigger some kind of emotion and most likely a memory.
Let’s talk about modern day dating. For me it’s normally hit or miss. No literally, listen if he fine fine, he got some shit with him run sis. When he’s undeniably a sweetheart he tries to smother you (Major peeve let me be) I said run. The one you kinda into, offer’s no consistency and or other important traits but seems to expect it damn he got you, I told yo ass to run. I’m speaking from the experience over the last year or so, not dating all these personalities at once. Although if I was, I wouldn’t be wrong another conversation for another day.
But what ever happened to R&B love or (love song chivalry)? Where the man actually pursues you and shows his interest or how much he really like you? The kind where he’s been watching you but was nervous to attempt to pursue you because he was just that into you. It’s like there were no upfront questions to be asked, because he had studied you before he even approached you. He wanted to make sure he was really attracted to you and your mannerisms before he even took that step with you. Then he brainstormed and thought about how to best approach you. They were so optimistic in getting a girl, she was his even before she was his. That’s important in any dynamic of wanting something just for you. Loyd even prayed Player prayers, and included God in the pursuit of his woman. These days they question god. Instead of asking, then looking to find it in that Woman. When Jay Z made a Song Cry, we saw the type of man (personality wise) didn’t even matter. Even the hard core dope boys showed they could relate and played those songs high with all the windows down LOUD. They loved us hard, so hard they was ready to defend and be loyal to somebody they just met and just simply wanted to get to know. Then comes r&b rap where LL Cool J and Boyz II Men rang out to admirer’s all over singing Hey Lover. (that’s low key a fave) However old school love songs was made for everyone to listen and relate to. #BRINGITBACK It made commitment, trust, loyalty, chivalry, and being solid look practical and fun. I won’t go too far and say be faithful but Jagged Edge had men singing Let’s Get Married and dancing to the alter. UGK even had his boys and the barber right behind him looking like a lynch mob, singing International players anthem (I choose you Baby). Then you know its real cause even his partners know how he feel. DISCLAIMER THIS IN NO WAY APPLIES TO ALL MEN.
I know some of you are still out there but I bet the ladies will agree that it’s slim, I mean real slim. Some of them gone say to none but I believe better. On all the old school love stories, and hardcore drama movies you definitely gone hear a good r&b song spewing in the background. Color Me Badd was tryna sex somebody up in New Jack City. Try me, just go see. I mean they convinced you to give them a chance with a simple song, and sometimes a well thought out gift to compliment the gesture. Pride was never an option, that man fell to his knees and got his ass right back up to try again if necessary, sometimes with the same girl. Even the break up songs ended up with the love interest falling in love with someone else. Someone better than he/she had before. Carl Thomas had me somewhat confused with I wish, but he got it together cause shortly after he was out dancing in Summer Rain. Listeners immediately considered trying it again with someone else (F that). These days it’s like, I’ll never do that shit again (*side eye*lol). I say all this to say, ladies if you’re like me… Single, and mingling, looking to eventually stumble into your life partner. Let’s try a new approach and don’t entertain unless their tryna Love you like R&B. Hopefully I’ve restored some faith in a few of you. Now go on, Go listen to some jodeci, or better yet head over to Apple music and check out the latest #SpreadLoveGoodMusic playlist entitled “Music is my love language”.
Rhythm & Tru's 